Love and Poetry
People are so stupid. Let this rant be one that resonates this message. People are stupid.
I continually see these pictures on tumblr and posts on Facebook about what girls want in the guys they date and what sort of love they want etc. and they are all stupid, complete idiots.
First example of stupidity that is blatantly passed around as a factually romantic and excellent idea of a relationship.
If you do something bad enough to cause them to get mad at you long enough for you to wonder when they will stop being mad at you, then you have either fucked up really badly OR they are immature and do not deserve to be with you, or anyone, because they haven’t sorted their own issues out yet.
If you enter a relationship with somebody who wants to talk to you 24/7, then you, again, have made the mistake of entering a relationship with somebody who is immature. This person, however, cannot provide themselves with their own happiness, cannot function properly as a single person and will thus rely on you for far too much, putting strain on the relationship because of their emotional instability and putting too much unwanted pressure on you and so the relationship will fail because you will feel smothered or that they are clingy, like they are controlling or trying to monopolise your time, thus alienating you from your friends or you might just realise that you don’t even like them and that you just got caught up in the hormone cocktail that happens to coincide with two people being attracted to each other.
Anybody who is afraid of losing you is, again, emotionally unstable and is relying on you too heavily for their emotional well being. Make no mistake, I am talking purely about relationships that are untested. Being married for 20 years and TRULY loving your partner is a bit different to falling in love and a month later crying because your boyfriend is going camping somewhere and there is no reception, but there is a town nearby and you’re worried he might cheat on you with some girl up there. and it’s not the same as being worried somebody will leave you because you need them to support you physically and mentally and emotionally because you’ve been through a truly traumatic experience.
I will point out at this point that if it sounds poetic, it is most likely retarded and dysfunctional.
Here is what I believe a true relationship between two mature people would sound like:
“They love each other
They understand each other
They were happy with their lives BEFORE they met
They are happy still, they just have different types of happiness
They are both still capable of entertaining themselves and being without the other for extended periods of time.
They don’t get overly jealous of their partner being around those of the other sex, and IF THEY DO, they remind themselves to grow the fuck up and that the reason they should is because this person loves them.
They are both well adjusted, mature individuals with their own likes and shared likes.
Because they are both mature, they realise that if the other was to leave them then it would be there fault and that they should learn from that experience. If it is not their fault, then they should not feel bad about themselves, only that a chapter that they enjoyed is now ending. Grieving is a part of life and it is something a MATURE adult is accustomed to.
They do not worry about the other leaving them because they are confident in their ability to attract their partner and in the love they both share. Jealousy is an insecurity as much as it is a relationship ruiner.”
Doesn’t sound as poetic now does it, but guess what, it works way better than:
“I want a man who wants to breathe my every breath
I want a man who knows when I’m upset even when he isn’t there and drops everything and comes to me and tells me I’m pretty.
I want a man who can’t stand to be without me
I want a man who would rather be with me than with his friends, but is OK with me going out with my friends.
I want a man who will buy me gifts when I don’t expect them and will pay for dinner, even when I offer.
I want a man who needs me”
Granted, I don’t have the passion for this like 14yr old girls do, but you get the picture.
I’m going to end this rant by saying that if you disagree then you can message me about it, or you could pick up a book that isn’t written by a 40 yr old women who married her high school boyfriend and then divorced him a year after their marriage because, as it turns out, they never grew the fuck up and didn’t realise that was the problem.
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I’ve decided to tell girls when I think they are too normal, boring and/or plain.
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This is something i don’t understand about people. It’s almost as if they insist on their life being boring and void of happiness. Fear is the only enemy.
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I’ve never felt somebody could get bored of me, but I have felt that somebody could find me to not be enough. I think this is a common fear and I have dealt with it by just simply saying “Fuck it, her loss.”
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So relevant right now.
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THIS
OK, so these first two points seem valid enough for me to not destroy them. Marketing and advertising, along with fear mongering in the media leads to this train of thought. I’ll pay that some people do not know how to look past what they see on the news in order to discover the actual truth. But in the end, if you make all of your decisions based entirely on what they TV and the news say to you, or on what an advertisement says, then you’re a walking talking meat sack, just waiting to die. Absolutely useless outside of a production line.
Second point is derived from the Victorian era prudishness which many of the “higher ups” maintain to this day. It was customary, in those days, to cover the legs of chairs and tables in order to ensure nobody was aroused. It was also a FACT at the time that women did not enjoy sex and the men should also feel disgusted by it, whilst seeing it as a necessary sacrifice that they must make in order to create an heir to their vast, prudish fortune.
We are not like this anymore, just some people are. Go anywhere on the internet, in a store, out in the street, and you are bound to see a partially dressed man or woman somewhere. In the 1940s the focus of women’s magazine covers on female beauty was around 18%, where the main focus was on clothing, food and practical home ideas. This, opposed to, the 94% focus on female beauty that we see on the magazines of today.
Cosmetic surgery earnings in the US now exceeds $100 billion every year. The reality is, however, that the cosmetics industry and cosmetic surgery evolved from women’s competitive urge to attract a mate. Women instinctively know that doing these things will increase their chances of attracting a mate.
The worrying problem is that the media promotes a level of beauty that is unattainable for most women and therefore brainwashes them into thinking they’re never good enough. This then causes them to buy more stuff to make them good enough, but it’s a never ending cycle.
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Those last two points are absolute tripe. Firstly, “Why should I alter the natural state of my body to be seen as socially acceptable?” is a fucking cop out. It all comes down to attraction, women who look young, healthy and fertile are more likely to attract a mate. Having a healthy appearance is a girl’s prerogative, but this instinct developed over 50,000 years ago, when we lived in tribes and rarely saw new people because there were about 10,000 people. So, if you don’t want to get a boyfriend then eat some fucking cake and shut the fuck up, otherwise let the pretty girls do their thing.
Also, the definition of “socially acceptable” is not defined at all. The last point also has zero validity. Men wear makeup all the time, whether for their job or for their own enjoyment. Men have always worn makeup in primitive tribes which helps them to stand out, it’s only nowadays when men stopped needing it to stand out because they can turn up in a bright fuck off red Ferrari and everybody’s head turns.
I know guys that paint their nails and wear mascara, dye their hair ridiculous colours and get manicures. And it doesn’t stop their. A lot of men take a great deal of care and pride into how they look and do not consider any products taboo in the pursuit of this. It even became the cool thing to do at one point when “metrosexuality” was recognised by this level of care and cleanliness taken by men when concerning their appearance.
So don’t fucking whinge at me, you hipster spastic, about how “society doesn’t like me” because you are just a fucking contrarian with problems that are more first world than the case of Metallica suing Napster for providing the software to illegally download their songs.
Go and read a book about science and stuff, mongoloid.
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